i ask this of all who know ttatt and yet still attend, i am interested, when will you judge it is the right time not to go to meetings anymore ?.
a big part of me wants to say ".
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I knew TTATT for 3 years before I left physically. It was still a horrendous process and there's never a 'right time'. The repercussions were as serious as it gets and to be honest the anguish of attending meetings before knowing what I knew was nothing compared to the six months following our exit.
I would never urge someone to leave before they are as prepared as they can be for the fallout. You have to do what's right for your circumstances.
"that which can be asserted without evidence, can.
be dismissed without evidence.
" - christopher hitchens.
Welcome. Did you have the fish or lasagna?
did anyone else see this programme this week?
the parallels with the jw mindset were striking.
it's still on iplayer.. http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b01ngxq7/how_to_get_to_heaven_with_the_hutterites/.
Here it is on Youtube if you can't access BBC iplayer
did anyone else see this programme this week?
the parallels with the jw mindset were striking.
it's still on iplayer.. http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b01ngxq7/how_to_get_to_heaven_with_the_hutterites/.
Did anyone else see this programme this week? The parallels with the JW mindset were striking. It's still on iplayer.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b01ngxq7/How_to_Get_to_Heaven_with_the_Hutterites/
I cried when the young photographer left. Seeing his wonder at being in the outside world was fantastic.
this is a project i've started to prove i'm not an apostate: mapping bite to wts.
part one is the first criteria of cult control, behaviour control.
feel free to add to these subheadings too, as many of you were in a lot longer than me and have been in bethel or been elders.. .
Check out this thread.
yestarday all our elders were invited to a one day meeting urgently .i know they had their elders meeting few months ago .does anyone know what it was about .i heard from the grapevine that among other issues disgussed was a)how to deal with disfellowshipped ones and, b) how to offer councel to fellow elders .any elder attended this meeting in britain please feel free to share some info.
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i'm a born in, baptized as a young teenager, whole family is jw.
i just recently woke up after the new understanding of the fds was announced and it seemed to me to smack of power-grabbing.
i started looking at all the websites we're not supposed to, and now i know why.
I was once where you are. We're both out now. Take it slow and I second the recommendation to read Steve Hassan's books. It's like walking through a minefield, you need to learn how to navigate the hidden defense mechanisms in the JW mind before you attempt to reach him. You don't want to blow your marriage up.
hi guys.
i'm interested in knowing whether any other faders out there ever find themselves feeling a little paranoid about establishing contact with other faders or former jws, just in case the unthinkable happens and things turn sour.. personally, i'm now fairly comfortable with the idea that i will be disfellowshipped or disassociated within the next year or so.
i see it as inevitable, and an essential transition in order to do what i want to do with my life.
BTW, I sent you a PM.
hi guys.
i'm interested in knowing whether any other faders out there ever find themselves feeling a little paranoid about establishing contact with other faders or former jws, just in case the unthinkable happens and things turn sour.. personally, i'm now fairly comfortable with the idea that i will be disfellowshipped or disassociated within the next year or so.
i see it as inevitable, and an essential transition in order to do what i want to do with my life.
Yes I did feel that way for a while. It's an anxiety which lessens the longer you are out of the JW scene.
